How to Know if you’ve Met the One?

Maybe you have been in love for a few years or maybe a few months- and now you are trying to figure out if this is “the one.” Would you see yourself growing older together, “till death do us apart” is quite a long time, so you had better make a good decision. Now that divorce is becoming such a common phenomenon, how can you be sure that the person you choose will be the right choice for the relationship?

Before going for china patterns, hold up for a moment and do a little bit of soul-searching. Besides this is the most life-altering decision you will ever make in life.

Below are four steps that can help you figure out if your current honey is “the one”

What are your 5 “must haves”

In every relationship, there are things that you can live with or without. For instance, if you adore children and wish to have a family of your own, then this quality must be one of the must-haves. Write down the five things that you must have in a relationship.

What are your five Deal Breakers

Just as the things that you must have, there are things that you do not want in your future partner. Avoid thinking about the usual ones like cheating and body order. Think outside the box; maybe look for someone who shares the same interests as you. For example, if you are a fan of politics then your deal breaker is finding someone who does not agree or share in your political views.

What are your Common Values

Having the same moral values inHow to  a relationship is very fundamental and can be a huge conflict. For instance, if you are financially responsible and your spouse is awful with money, then that will cause trouble in your future life together. Knowing what your personal values are and how they suit your potential spouse is a key thing.

What are your common goals

Ask yourself what you want in life; if you have not figured out what you want, then it is going to be difficult for you to know if your partner is the one. You definitely need someone who you can share common goals in life. For instance, it might be a bad match if your future partner’s dream is to open a chupacabra farm in rural New Mexico, whereas your dream is to become a magazine editor in New York City. You really do not have to match 100% with your partner but you need to have some common ground.

So now, you are armored with the tools you need to answer the age-old question of “is this person the one?” Keep in mind that you are the only person who can answer this question for yourself.