Category "Dating"

How to Create a Good First Impression

Most of us know that making that vital first impression can mean all the difference when it comes to relationships.

Any impression that others see as a turn-off can be a disaster insofar as your social life is concerned.

This can come in many different forms from body odor to a haughty know-it-all attitude and a myriad of other things that you surely don’t want from others, and you know they don’t want it from you.

When it comes to socializing, you have to get the right mindset and this will enable you to get out there and have fun no matter what the occasion, a wedding, a party or even a blind date.

But before you congratulate yourself too early, there are certain measures you should bear in mind. These are not confined only to getting ready for a date, but also you have to think ahead. What about during and afterward? Your main objective here should be to increase your confidence level.

Preparation for that first Date

  1. You want to keep yourself in good health and always stay well-groomed. Nobody wants to go out with a tired, woebegone person who coughs or otherwise indicates he/she doesn’t feel well. The most likely result of this will be a fear in the other person that he/she may catch whatever you have.

It’s important that you try to get enough sleep every night and rest on a regular basis. You can make up a balanced diet as well, and make regular exercise an integral part of your daily schedule. Maintaining any sort of regular regimen can be very difficult, but in the long run, these considerations will not only pay off in the world of dating but in overall health and well-being. Today, you can find more fitness centers nearby than pizza parlors, and in many, the cost makes a membership well worth your time and expense.

  1. Try not to get your hopes out of control. Chances are that a first date, or any subsequent dates, will end up in you meeting your soul mate.

The main thing to be gained here is that you do get to meet many charming (and admittedly sometimes not so charming), new people. All this will help you immensely in narrowing down just exactly what it is you really want in your mate.And sometimes you may fall for a date only to find that he/she doesn’t respond. Let it go. Worrying about it only hurts you and stalking, etc. is not only unhealthy but can only turn that person more firmly against you.

And sometimes you may fall for a date only to find that he/she doesn’t respond. Let it go. Worrying about it only hurts you and stalking, etc. is not only unhealthy but can only turn that person more firmly against you.

Besides, the more you get out and meet new people, the more interested you’ll become in continuing this, and having fun while you do it!

  1. Before you even have a date, it’s a good idea to consider casual activities you and a date might share. There can be many choices available to you. If there’s a beach nearby, you might suggest a day at the beach, picnic and all.

Many enjoy bowling or skating. A lunch date can be enjoyable. It provides a casual, friendly open visit. Afterward, if you like, you might ask for a second date.

There are a few clubs here and there where dancing is popular. You just have to look around to see what might be available near you.

  1. Always wear clothes that are comfortable. If you feel comfortable in the clothes you’re wearing, you’ll feel more confident about yourself and feel more relaxed as well. For a casual date, a sweater and jeans would be appropriate.

How to behave on that First Date

  1. Try to plan ahead for some light conversation, something you can talk about to break the ice with your date. That means no political or religious talk!

You might talk about a movie you’ve both recently seen or some event that happened, and it’s important to show real interest in your companion. You’re not a police investigator, but ask questions about your date, family, interests, etc.

  1. Try not to dominate the conversation with “me” talk. As mentioned above, keep your interest on your date. Another perk to be gained from this is that you’ll feel more confident and in control. Try to put your date at ease and learning about his/her hopes and aspirations can always be fruitful.
  2. Even if you’re a woman, it’s a good idea to offer to pick up the bill in a restaurant or café. If you’re a man, it’s normally expected that you pick up the check and there should be no question about this unless your date insists on some other arrangement. If you’re the man and your date really insists on at least going Dutch (meaning that you split the cost of the lunch), you can accept gracefully.

It the date is a strong-minded lady and you absolutely refuse to listen to her, she may not be willing to accept a second date. These days, many women want to be treated on an equal basis than past custom dictated. And there are always other more subtle ways to treat her in the future.

  1. Plan for an end to the date. Most persons feel just a bit uneasy when it comes time to say good-night.

You may or may not feel comfortable offering a kiss on the cheek or perhaps a hug. If not, you may shake hands on that first date. At the same time, if you really interested, then you might want to let your date you’d like to see him/her again.

If things appear to have come to an impasse, then perhaps a simple good-night would be best.

What to do AFTER that First Date

  1. Give yourself a treat and a pat on the back. That will give you a little something to look forward to after that first date.

If you have a confident and feel like talking about the date, then you might want to sit down and talk about that first experience with someone, preferably older and more experienced. This sort of conversation can go a long way toward helping you understand what went well and what went badly and why. All this can be very helpful when you get to future dates.

2. Don’t be hasty in drawing conclusions about your date. It’s important to remain positive and usually a mistake to leap to conclusions.

It’s always a good idea in life to give the other person the benefit of the doubt and be sensitive to his/her wishes.

If you learn to maintain a positive outlook, you can always make difficulties are bearable for yourself as well as for others. In the end that first date shouldn’t cause you too much anxiousness. After all, it’s not a high-school mid-term exam. It’s supposed to be an enjoyable time with an attractive person.

5 Simple and Thoughtful Romantic Things to Do

Let’s face it – finding romantic things to do in this day and age can be a pretty competitive business. We don’t all have the means or the time to surprise our significant others with a spontaneous weekend getaway or an expensive piece of jewelry. The good news is that for most couples, these grand displays may be wonderful in moderation but such flashiness and expense isn’t expected on a regular basis. There are plenty of small, thoughtful gestures that you can do to show your partner that you care without seeming clichéd or breaking the bank. Check out the five ideas below; if none of them are quite right for you/your SO then they may, at least, trigger some creative and romantic ideas of your own.

Give a Spontaneous Massage

Who doesn’t love a good massage? Even a poorly administered massage is sweet if it is offered out of love. If your loved one has been stressing out about work, school, finances, or other typical stressors, they will likely appreciate a surprise massage session from their honey. If you haven’t given a massage before then it couldn’t hurt to learn about the basics by doing a quick Internet search before planning the private event. Add a bit of class to the occasion by getting ahold of some mild-scented massage oil or your companion’s favorite body lotion. This will not only help to prevent friction discomfort during the massage but a soothing scent will encourage your mate to relax and give in to your stress-relieving attempts. Make an effort to set the mood by lighting some candles, starting a fire in the fireplace (if you have one), and playing some soft, relaxing music. Your partner is sure to be impressed by the care that you’ve taken to help him/her unwind.

Leave a Love Note

A love note, or even a “reasons why I love you” list, is a very romantic way to express your love for your significant other. It can be hard to work such complex feelings into a conversation, especially if you and your partner find it hard to set aside some real alone time. If you possess a knack for writing then a love letter or a note could be the perfect way to remind your significant other about your feelings for him/her. If lengthy professions of love aren’t really your forte, then consider putting together a handwritten list of reasons why you love your other half. Once your note is complete, think of a unique but easy-to-see place to stash it. If your SO is attending a work trip, consider tucking the note inside his or her suitcase before they set off. You could also leave it taped to the bathroom mirror, in their lunch bag, or resting on their pillow. Consider leaving an additional treat for your sweetie, such as a flower or their favorite candy.

Prepare a Luxurious Bubble Bath

Bubble baths may seem overrated, but when prepared with care by one’s partner the act can be extremely romantic. In order to really impress your man or lady, you should take the time to transform the bathroom into a soothing and dreamy space. Set an assortment of tea lite candles around the bathroom to create just enough light to set the mood. Scattering rose petals into the water or around the tub is both classy and romantic; but if you choose do to this, be sure to hold off on this part until the last minute so the petals remain fresh and fragrant as your mate steps into the room. This is also a great opportunity to create a playlist or CD containing songs that will add a romantic air to the event, especially any that have special meaning in your relationship, such as the song to which you shared your first dance together. Some nicely scented bubble bath liquid and a natural bath sponge can be cheaply purchased but will also add the finishing touches to this romantic event. You could also consider getting some nice wine and a few truffles or decadent chocolate to pamper your honey, if your budget will allow. If not, a fresh cup of tea or coffee may do just as nicely!

Name a Star After Them or Adopt an Animal in Their Name

How do you think your SO would feel about having a star named after him or her? You don’t have to be an astronomy buff to understand the allure of having a star forever bear the name of an individual. Star naming is an easy process that can be done via several legitimate websites online, such as Star Registry, Name a Star, and Online Star Register. Depending on which website you choose to use, “buying a star” can cost anywhere from $20 to $60. Most websites will send you an official certificate as well as coordinates and even an access link to view the star on a digital map.

Individuals who have a particular fondness for animals may be better suited to having an exotic or endangered animal “adopted” in their name. Of course the animal wouldn’t actually be owned by your partner, but they would receive an adoption certificate and a picture of the animal that has been financially sponsored in their name. There are many different animals that you can choose from, including dolphins, tigers, pandas, snow leopards, wolves, seahorses, and many other species.

Create an “It’s All About You” Day

Sometimes a bit of pampering and extra attention are all one needs to be reminded of how loved they are. To create the perfect “All About You” day, consider the things that your companion enjoys doing but doesn’t get the opportunity to indulge in very often. For instance, if he or she loves to canoe, consider pre-booking a canoe for the two of you and surprise your partner with a fully-stocked cooler and a goody bag of outdoor necessities, such as bug spray, sunblock, and a new pair of sunglasses. If you’re strapped for cash but still want to provide your honey with a special day, don’t hesitate to roll up your sleeves and prepare your love’s favorite breakfast to be served in bed. Follow that up with a small gift, perhaps a new book or movie he or she has had their eye on and assure them that you’ll take care of any chores or errands that need to be done that day. Encourage your loved one to relax and indulge in some shameless “me time.” Wrap up the day with a romantic indoor or outdoor picnic and a shoulder or neck massage.